Abstract: In the current education life,The practice of student management directly leads to the formation of competitive lifestyle ,which promotes the individual competitive life to become more and more intense .In particular, there are three aspects: target management, behavioral management and emotion management. Obviously, this is extremely detrimental to the development of the individual and the progress of the group. In view of this, it is necessary to start from the aspects of developing students' reflective ability, promoting students' self-competition and improving students' management practice, so as to return to the essence of education.

Key words: Student management, Competitive lifestyle, Reflection ability